The eulogy that I wrote and delivered:
It’s the year 1936. Labasa town was only four Indian and
Chinese shops. A hospital had just been opened and many babies saved with a new
drug. One was Peceli Soqovata Ratawa. There was the Fijian village of Naseakula
there but one family lived independently - Irimaia and Ulamila Ratawa and their children
- in a grass bure filled with visitors from
Cikobia and Mali most of the time. The seven children went to a nearby school
where the English language was strange because everyone around spoke Labasa
dialect or Hindi. Bula sia! Aap Kaise
hai! Peceli and his siblings had an
enjoyable life catching fish and crabs, riding a borrowed bike, helping with
chores, running to buy bread at the Chinese store. Peceli’s father died when
Peceli was eight and the family divided – some to Mali Island, some to
Naseakula village. Peceli to the village. By fourteen he left school to work with a cousin as a
carpenter but it’s wasn’t enough. Uncle Viliame was a pastor and talked about a
new Bible school down the coast, so Peceli packed up his mat – a bit crooked as
his Mum could not weave well – and caught a boat to Naduri. At the Bible school Peceli was popular
because he knew how to plant rice and use bullocks, having learnt from his
Indian friends in Labasa. He was inspired by Rev Setareki Rika who sent him on
to Davuilevu near Suva – a whole adventure ahead for this country teenager.
There he was mentored by two Australian missionaries, Rev
Cyril Germon and Rev Alan Tippett who
was developing new courses for theological students. The students were modest
youth, treating girls as sisters, working in the cassava gardens, studying and
going out preaching on Sundays. Peceli was praised by Rev Setareki Tuilovoni in
the youth department because he could control bullocks to plough up the fields.
After graduation Peceli was sent to start a new Bible school at Nailaga for a
year and apparently was popular with the Nailaga school girls there.
Next came an appointment to Naikoro way up in the mountains
– no road, just riding horses to get there. He decided to get married, got the
boat to Labasa to find Ateca who was from a chiefly family and they were
married in Suva by Rev Niko before journeying up to the mountain village. Soon
they two children, Ulamila and Ateca. Peceli was devastated when his wife died
when the baby was four days old. Family came to the rescue. His sister Suliana
looked after the girls in Lautoka. The Methodist Church knew Peceli spole Fiji Hindi
bhaat so appointed him to be a padre to the Fiji Indian community in Lautoka.
Then I come into the scene finding this handsome young man
with a huge laugh intriguing and we married on New Year’s Eve 1966, 49 years
ago with about 350 guests at Jasper Williams School. So today again we are
providing hospitality again to a crowd for vakatawase. Sobosobo.
Life in the Indian Division was wonderful and George and
Robin were both born when we were in Rakiraki. These were wonderful years living
amidst the cane-fields. Then after a year at Dilkusha we realized the family in
Labasa needed Peceli’s help about land matters so we took a boat trip, even
with Kanakana our pet pig, up to live in
Vatuadova, the family village 10 k out of Labasa. This was 1971.
Living amidst cane farms and a mainly Indian community was
fine but financially draining. It was important though and a learning curve for
me to be with the extended Ratawa family and I enjoyed knowing my new kin –
especially Evia and Suliana, and Mila and Teca and their cousins. I taught art
part-time and Peceli organised several development projects – timber logging,
church building, trochus shell, a modest eco-tourism spot at Nukutatava, but
there were difficulties. We moved to the beach at Nukutatava where we had built
three bures and Andrew was the new baby
by then. Peceli loved Nukutatava with a passion. It was idyllic especially at
sunrise.
A mango plops on the wet grass,
I collect a handful to pare and slice.
Parrot mangoes coloured sunrise.
I hear Rinieta singing
as she strolls towards the spring
where water drips like plucked strings.
This is the day, this is the day
that the Lord has made..
Light catches the plaits of bamboo
as I sit on the doorstep,
cannot speak for the sheer wonder of it
as the soft scarf of the sky
floats with seeping dyes
and Vorovoro hangs on the skyline.
The colours die into a bland talcum day:
The baby will wake in an hour.
Peceli was a good talatala, as he loved people, talking
with them, leading in worship. He could spend time with ordinary people with
grace and humour and he appreciated his own Fijian culture and protocol.
But.... it was time to move on as I had taken the children to Australia wanting
to see my family again n Swan Hill. Peceli was offered work at John Knox church
as the local churches were merging, and he was confronted by the different
lives of the local Aboriginal people in the Mallee. They called Peceli
‘brother’ but not me ‘sister’. My own family were good to Peceli though
occasionally confused by the cultural shifts and the good appetites of our
three boys.
Then he was appointed to Hopetoun where the delightful
wheat farming community took us into their hearts. He learnt about the
stump-jump plough and that you don’t bash into people but be gentle when you
are sharing the pain of life as well as enjoying the good
moments. He sometimes looked back with nostalgia to Fiji days
yet lived in the present moment,
listened to the laments about weather
and mouse-plagues but appreciated the local church and other blessings. We both
loved the six Hopetoun years where we
and our three children had many friends. Peceli played golf, indeed he did, with a
passion.
As the boys grew we were challenged to move
to a city environment to East Geelong Uniting Church, a shared parish with St
Andrews. The congregation was a steady
one, conservative, yet they accepted a
Pacific Islander for up to nine years. We linked up with the Fijian community
in Melbourne so life was balanced, with holidays in Fiji, and our boys thrived
at Geelong High School across the road from the manse. I was a bit of a
shipwreck regarding housework as my energy was diverted to study art again, at
Deakin University and do a couple of degrees. Yet Peceli and I were committed
to the church community as well as people on the fringe of society. We loved Geelong, never wanted to move, but
time was up and we had to find new challenges such as a bit of study at Monash
for Peceli, some short-term pastoral placements such as at Dandenong, and we bought our own home at 13 Boundary Rd.
George and Robin moved to Fiji to work, Andrew stayed around. Peceli and I
compiled the stories of the journey and published ‘When the Spirit says move’.
Adventures continued in retirement life, but
one tragedy is uppermost in our memories when our second son. Robin Iliesa
Tupou, died in an accident at a Fiji resort
where he worked. George was working at the time at NLTB. Fiji life was in chaos because of a coup – in
2000. Our three sons married Fiji girls – Bale,
Salanieta, and Eka, all wonderful women and we delight in our grandchildren – Talei, Epa, Jordan,
Andrew and Linlay.
Do ministers retire? I don’t think so. There’s always pastoral
matters, some preaching and visiting – most recently at Colac, mentoring young ministers, reaching out, inviting people
in with hospitality. Peceli never tired
of wanting to meet people, and dreaming of trips to Fiji. Now after a serious heart failure incident
over five years ago, Peceli had to slow down, give up golf and some meetings
such as Rotary, but he still drove his car, though sometimes jumping a
kerb.
This Christmas time has been a huge blessing
with all our close family living together and spending quality time eating,
singing, praying. It was wonderful. Then
on Sunday morning the spirit of Peceli was moving on. No drama. No pain. Just in his sleep
as the daylight came. We have been blessed in our family by Peceli and give
thanks to God for his inspiration to us in loving God and always telling us,
even to the doctors – God is with me, here or wherever I go. Thanks be to God.
I am so sorry to read of your loss. I do not know either of you but have enjoyed reading your blog in Alaska for several years.
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ReplyDeleteWhat a beautiful eulogy for a beautiful man! Our condolences to you in your great loss. We too have appreciated reading your blog. The two of you have been a blessed partnership and an inspiration to many. My wife has used your poetry in her liturgies (with proper citation of course!)
The Fiji Church has turned out many great men of God - Setareki Rika was the senior minister who in 1960 persuasively urged the Fijian Synod to share together with Indians in a United Conference. Peceli too has followed his calling with dedication and worked among all peoples with love and compassion.
To God be the Glory!
Andrew and Carolyn.
Thank you Andrew and Carolyn for your kind words. Now it is four weeks since Peceli died and I realize the difference it is making to our household. After the shock of the first week where I was so busy and actually hyper, it has now dawned on me how we will miss his smile, yarns, drives, kava drinking and prayers. Isa, it's a hard time but we are grateful for the peaceful way his last chapter has been.
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